A
couple who did not merit having children came to Rav Yitzchak Zilberstein with
the following inquiry: Should they get divorced and
then remarried, for they had heard that this is a segulah for having
children? The woman, however, was refusing because getting divorced was
degrading to her. What should they do?
He
cited proof from our Gemora that a divorce, even just for a few moments
is degrading and therefore, the wife has grounds to refuse the divorce.
The
Gemora states: Rava sent the following question to Abaye in the hands of
Rav Shemayah bar Zeira: Is it indeed true that the kesuvah of a yevamah
was meant to be collected while the yavam is alive? But didn’t we learn
in the following braisa: Rabbi Abba said: I asked Sumchus: If a yavam
(after performing yibum) wishes to sell some of his brother’s properties
(something that he is not allowed to do), what should he do?
Sumchus
responded: If he is a Kohen (and he cannot marry his divorcee),
he should prepare for her a feast (with some wine) and persuade her to
allow him to sell the property (which exceeds the amount of her kesuvah).
If he is a Yisroel, he should divorce her and then, remarry her (he
can either sell the properties before the second marriage or afterwards).
Rava
concludes his question: If the kesuvah of a yevamah was meant to
be collected while the yavam is alive, let the yavam designate
land for her which equals the amount of the kesuvah, and then, he should
be permitted to sell the remaining property? This, explains Rashi is a much
more preferable option, for getting divorced is degrading!
The Steipler Gaon, when asked the same question, said
that a childless couple may try to divorce and remarry (and the husband need
not be concerned that after the divorce, the wife will refuse to remarry);
however, he personally never heard that this is a valid segulah and he
has no opinion regarding its veracity.